Setting boundaries is something very crucial for your own mental health. Boundaries at various points in life are something totally alien and considered uncalled for in any relationship especially in Indian society because we all have this preconceived notion where we think the other person in any relationship should know everything about us. And there shouldn’t be any need for you to verbalize your needs, wants, desires and feelings. But in reality, for a relationship to flourish and prosper, setting boundaries is something extremely essential. Boundaries will actually make any relationship strong and more healthy.
Self-Care – Setting Boundaries
When you are in a relationship, you should establish and make it clear to your partner, who you are and who you want to be. Why we should start here is, most of the relationships are exhausted in finding out about the real person inside your partner.
People think it is normal to change according to your partner’s likes and dislikes. Which is absolutely a big NO. It is very important for every single person to hold on to their individuality and under no circumstances it is advisable to change your traits for your partner or any other person. When you set this boundary, your relationship will become strong and healthy and at the same time, both the people in the relationship will have their self-esteem intact.
For a healthy relationship, the key is to have good and honest communication. At no point, you should be afraid of talking about something to them. Never assume your partner’s feelings or reaction.
When you set a boundary, be sure, you follow it religiously because if you yourself break it, then there is no reason the other person will follow it and it will also give them an excuse to break your boundary. At the same time, you should also respect other’s boundaries.
Take responsibility for your actions and never blame another person for your mistakes. This helps resolves issues and exhibits maturity. If you think the other person is not respecting your boundaries, you should know the right time to move out of away from the person, no one wants to be treated disrespectfully and if you’re not matured enough to move out of it, then you are being unfair to yourself.
What is Setting Boundaries
Now you might be wondering, what setting a boundary is all about? Boundaries can be small or big but all of them have to be treated with equal importance. For example, your partner might not be able to digest it when someone uses their things without their knowledge. So make sure, you ask for their permission before laying hands on their stuff, even if it is as small as a pen or a pencil.
This means that you are respecting the boundary and space. This might seem like a tiny-winy thing for you but for your partner, it might mean a lot. When you respect their boundary, they will be doing the same thing for you as well and that helps a relationship grow more healthy.
Be sure to set your boundaries!